You may have arrived at this article prompted by curiosity, an underlying need, or by the few questions that I posed in the Learn Grow Create tutor centre newsletter. Questions about whether making use of the services of a Life Coach carried with it for YOU, or the society that likes to judge you, a stigma or feelings of inadequacy, or even of failure.
I have found it interesting the number of people who have no idea what a Life Coach does and when asked will often revert to a Life Coach being similar to a Counsellor. According to the NHS here’s what a Counsellor does: “Counselling is a type of talking therapy that allows a person to talk about their problems and feelings in a confidential and dependable environment. A Counsellor is trained to listen with empathy (by putting themselves in your shoes). They can help you deal with any negative thoughts and feelings you have.”
This certainly does apply but as an overall description of what a Life Coach does it hardly scratches the surface.
A second and very crucial point to mention before providing a simple explanation of what I offer with my Life Coaching relates specifically to the UK, and the character and culture of the English people. It is well known that the English are very reserved, polite, and unlikely to show emotion in public. This results in a behaviour type and thinking that is best described by the words from a song by a famous British band, Pink Floyd: “hanging on in quiet desperation is the English way.”
Long before matters in your life and your thinking reach the level of desperation it really is a good idea to ask people for help. It is in everyone’s nature to want to help others, and a Life Coach is trained to do this in the most effective and peaceful manner … let me explain what I offer with my Life Coaching by making use of an analogy, to a Formula One racing car.
As you can imagine for this car to be effective and successful in the task that it is about to set out to perform, there are a whole range of things that need to be at their most optimum standard. The engine tuned to perfection, a special type of oil used to ensure correct and long term lubrication, a particular and specific type of fuel on which the car will run. Then there’s the tyres, chassis, body, streamlining, shock absorbers, brake pads (excuse me if Formula 1 cars don’t use either of these last two but you get the picture) and every nut and bolt tightened the correct amount and to the correct torque.
This is us when we are born; we are perfect little pieces of creation with all facets flawless and prepared for life, which includes our personality, character, spirit or soul and our lubrication, being our pure thoughts which keep our lives in perfect and smooth running order.
And then we become exposed to people and the world, people who offer us their views of life, the media’s negativity, sensationalism, and materialistic encouragements, and things start getting out of alignment and in a poor state of repair. We are told that we need to fit in and comply with society’s norms. We become conditioned and lose our unique identity and sense of who we really are. To make matters worse we put the wrong fuel into the tank and the lubrication required to keep everything well oiled, on track and running smoothly – our thoughts – start becoming more appropriate to a lawnmower. At some stage in life our car is in such a bad state swaying, veering, crabbing and bouncing across the road, the engine coughing and spluttering and backfiring, that driving the car becomes so unmanageable that we take our hands off the steering wheel and life takes over and we lose control.
With my Life Coaching I then help you to get back into Formula 1 condition, with your hands firmly on the steering wheel and with two key additives – you get to be in pole position at the start line, and in the new race that you enter you’ll find that there’s space for everyone to be in pole position.